At an Angle #243

What if I were to say to you that even though our details are different “I know how you feel”? Would that particular clause help you to feel supported in the place that needs you most? How about if my words were changed to share that “I feel as you feel”? Would that difference in my term choices assist you in being able to breathe at least a little bit easier? Which of the two do you think would be more likely to facilitate a much-needed connection? Those easy words are powerful enough to either help us to sense that we are safe and united, or to encourage us to feel insecure and alone. Yeah, I was unaware that there is a definite distinction between those expressions but when the first one has been used in response to my pain, I have felt even more isolated during some of my darkest moments and as I turn around, I can also see that my own utilization of that one didn’t provide the kind of support that I had intended for others as well. Understanding that within myself is both an un-fortunate and fortunate view or the hell and the heaven of my clauses being at an angle. In other words, in those moments my mind had felt like it was holding the right terms and the similar feelings of my own experiences helped me to understand the person before me but that isn’t actually how we or others feel heard. The slight variation of those terms appears to be so simple and perhaps even un-important but knowing how you feel is really about me and feeling as you feel is about keeping what you are going through to the front so that you can feel safe or at least safer as you relay what your weeds are holding. That first clause is what the voice of sympathy sounds like and the second one is what the supporting hug of empathy feels like in our hearts and while they are used to define each other in a dictionary, only empathy has the ability to help us to believe in and trust ourselves as well as others. Today is a good day to turn what has been at an angle into what helps you to show up for yourself. After all, you feel as you feel about your so very heavell life and if you need a reminder, we feel as you feel although we have also been at an angle requiring us to work on our series of movements and words as well. Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell