Side by Side #317

Side by Side #317

Although we all have goals, none us know what the journeys to get to our desired locations will hold.

There is no way for us to measure the amount of steps that it will take to get there or how many marks will be revisited in our stories from those movements.

We can’t imagine when or if we will get stuck or what it will take for us to liberate ourselves from those weeds in order to begin again.

We can’t be sure that our own dragons won’t cast shadows in the sunny parts to remind us of the comfortableness of the yesterdays and the fear of the unknown living in the tomorrows.

Our views don’t allow us to observe the storms and the blind-spots that will appear along the way in order to dissuade us nor how much time that it will take for us to quiet the energy of the doubt that always accompanies those kinds of challenges.

Our trying won’t promise that we will grow because unlike pain, development expects us to carry on with our struggling as it unconditionally takes every little bit of our efforts to adjust us, without ever making a sound until it is ready to be noticed.

We can’t even say that if we actually knew what it would take to get somewhere different, that our intention would be to still go or that if we did decide to tread, that our steps wouldn’t be slowed by the nagging thoughts of what is waiting for us around the bend.

And yet without any sort of guarantee or clear vision of those uncharted trails, we take hold of hope and aim for the objectives that we believe hold the possibility of our locating the happiness that is capable of helping us to think more of ourselves.

Everything on our journeys, even the missteps, allows us to learn to let our grief live in a manner unlike how it has been defining us and to transform what we say in our stories by recognizing that we don’t always have a problem that needs to be fixed but rather that our view  of it needs to be moved.

What we will resemble in our dreamed of destinations isn’t something that shows up when we arrive there because without all of the challenges that we encounter, our location would change but we would appear and feel as we already do in this moment.

It has never been just about the flowers because some days will be hard, others will be good and even more will only be all right but slowly a different person is emerging who has the colors to paint the beauty on the blooms and the weeds that reside side by side as the proof of what we have been and what we are in the process of discovering.

Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell  

This and That #316

This and That #316

When things aren’t what we want them to be, we tend to think that there is something wrong with us and that we need to change in order for us to be able to celebrate ourselves.

When life distracts us from whatever that goal is, we are prone to feeling defeated as we become aware of the distance between our location and the probability of finally being happy.

When we question our struggles, we hold close the impact of disappointments as if they are the only detail that we should remember from our steps.

When we are discouraged, we have the propensity to use our retraceable moments as the justifications as to why we shouldn’t give ourselves another chance.

When we don’t allow ourselves to make mistakes, we doubt our own possibilities and then even hope can’t help us to let go of the flow of emotional energies that limit our view of our capabilities.

If we pause to notice what is right about us as often as we recognize what is wrong, we find the strategies that work for our position when progression is necessary.

If we focus on what our intent is instead of a specific objective, we are able to accommodate the distractions of the bad days that threaten to keep us stuck and to flourish even more in the good ones.

If we notice that the process of our journeys is what makes our destinations valuable, we are able to find joy along the way in the small things as well as hang onto that feel when our plans don’t go as we hope.

If we take actionable steps towards listening to understand, we build a relationship with all of ourselves rather than only with the painful marks that communicate so loudly within us.

If we commit to knowing how words resonate within us, we don’t judge our potential in the tomorrows with who we are today because in the yesterdays, we had know idea of the sometime warriors that would be able to get us to this moment.

In life, there will always be this and that as well as things that show up now and then, but we are the perfectly imperfect people to understand that what we do with the presence of the weeds and the dragons is a part of how our flowers grow and how we still see the light on even the stormiest of days.  

Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell