In our vocabularies, there is a single word that can change the direction of every story and while we might believe that kind of value is found within the familiar designation of love, loving others doesn’t always convey that we have a grasp on how the energies of life feel for them.
Each of us desires to be understood but the definition of what that entails is not the same for everyone nor is every person capable of taking action in order to provide it to someone else and that mismatch of vibrations can leave us feeling lonely in an area filled with people who we know care about us as we do for them.
It’s difficult to be connected to others, though, when our attachment to ourselves contains the idea that in order for us to be heard, we need a different person to show up and sympathize with our details so that we may experience relief from our feels even if only for a moment.
How we have been aware of that pain taking up space in our stories has served a purpose but as many times as we have repeated those steps, they have never once contributed to the understanding and the safety that we have been chasing with hope in our hearts.
Changing those familiar movements, then, can make us feel fearful particularly since we don’t believe in what we can’t see, we are uncomfortable with supporting ourselves and we would prefer to skip to the destination where we will finally just be happy.
On our journeys, though, every moment has been an act of our becoming and by permitting space between our now and the place that we have yet to get to, we determine the shape that we will take along the way instead of the grief continuing to decide for us.
As we move into the new year, let us let go of the kind of communication that the yesterdays outlined for us and substitute it with listening to understand, particularly when the stuff that dragons have to say is only powerful if we don’t.
May 2024 be the year that we grasp that the vibe of love is an illuminating light in our stories but the energy of understanding is the lighthouse that’s needed for the stuff that limits our view of that endearment.
Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell
When grief overplays its part in our stories, not wanting to be where we are or even who we are can silence our knowledge of the courage that it has taken for us to get to this very moment, especially if our wins get lost in the vagueness of what it means to be brave.
Because sadness has the ability to uniquely paint outside of the lines, it is not always understood by others or even us and by comparing what we believe it encompasses to what we carry, we can end up devaluing our own contact with any kind of achievement.
That communication makes it harder for us to believe in the things that we can’t see, like the growth that is in the process of arriving or the light that continues to shine whether its seen or not.
There is room, then, in between our shrinking moments and the concept of what it means to be strong to acknowledge that we actually live in both places as there are days where our other parts radiate louder than the pain does and ones in which smiling is the courageous shield that we use to keep ourselves going despite how difficult it is for us to breathe.
If we turn around and confirm to ourselves that we have come this far without the proof of that being possible, then we can change the narrative of our darker periods of today or tomorrow by recognizing that we will eventually arrive around the bend despite our inability to envision what that entails.
So, ask yourself this question, “How have I made it through the days that the weather on the inside was positive?” because unbeknownst to you, you have been enduring all along, but you’ve only noticed the moments in which you have felt stuck.
Whatever we are experiencing, it’s all energy and if we use a little kindness, where we are and who we are will allow us to build upon the foundation of yesterday’s words and experiences with the once out of reach knowledge and courage that we have now.
Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell
As we overthink the yesterdays, we have to step back and recognize that how we existed in those places was by utilizing the abilities that we had at the time and in those encounters, our responses were the ones that we had to give.
Our belief, though, is that our actions were not enough based on what we think today and that conflict distances us from having understanding for the unmet expectations that we grieve as well as the marks left by those painful events.
It is reasonable, then, to want to rewrite the old but the consequences of our being overly focused on that desire are the feelings of invalidation and unhappiness that continue to impact our ability to trust ourselves each and every day.
In other words, those former missteps encourage us to disappear into the fear that our future moves will carry on and the conversations that we have with ourselves dwell in that worn out energy instead of showing up to shift our view.
If we revisit how we defined change previously, that term has simply expressed our need to not repeat unwanted behaviors and suffering.
However, the truth of what it really entails is that its made up of many, many unseen details and even challenges that can eventually cultivate the flowers that we imagine but not always in the frame that we hope for.
So just our being aware that we want our worn pages to be different is one of the little ways that we are, indeed, slowly stepping into the light of the particulars that are still not clear for us.
Sometimes we are the dragons whose boundaries don’t support us but instead hold us back by not allowing room for the expansion and redefining of the information that we have believed about ourselves.
The most powerful and vulnerable we will ever be is in our existence of our own words that can be both what exhausts us and inspires our curiosity but which one we grasp will depend upon what we are able to make use of minute by minute.
Every day we are enough but not every day is it possible for us to feel that especially since the yesterdays whisper that we remain the same in the now and then of our stories and the tomorrows have yet to appear to provide us with the knowledge that will help us to cope with who we are today.
Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell
If we look into our hearts, we can see that approval of ourselves is influenced by the pressure of our tangled emotions and it can be really hard to recognize what we have already overcome when we are lost in the shuffle of our struggles as well as the safety of their familiarity in our moments of uncertainty.
What we see in that place is what makes us feel unique and separate from others and while movement does help us to relocate our focus, if our actions still include dragging around our invisible barriers from the yesterdays, our adjusted steps will continue to revolve in the understanding of our shadows that have shifted right along with us.
We can’t erase that contrast and we can’t cover it up as the emphasis on our differences is already a part of the way that we speak to ourselves about how difficult it is for us to be happy and how easy it is for our suffering to pull us back from the light.
Transformation is risky because it involves changing how we do today with the presence of a mind and heart that can’t imagine what we will look like around the bend nor if the acceptance that we have been seeking on the inside will finally be something that we can hold onto or remain fleeting despite our efforts.
A better question to ask in our process, then, would be “How are we defining what enough means for ourselves? ” because if that word has been constrained just as our hope has been, we are unnecessarily rotating in the murkiness that we desire to leave behind.
So in our fights with the feels that have filled us with confusion and hurt, let us allow our belief of our adequacy to encompass the knowledge that we have made it to this very point and when our existence is minute by minute, that we are still living within the artwork that being enough has left for us to nurture as only we can.
For today, try a little kindness in your talk because sometimes the dragons in our stories are not the “f” moments that we have lived but simply are the results of our mixing up and limiting the definitions of the very words that we are using to define our lives by.
Have the best day POSSIBLE for you. Love Always, Heavell
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